As subsequent events have shown, the original analysis was correct. She DID ask him not to use it.
Her objection: It was being used by Obama to make it seem that she was against the war effort. She wants it to be “successful.”
It’s even more starkly clear that SSgt. Jopek supports the Iraq war effort, and he was personally over there doing it. His fear was that we would leave without finishing the job, and he spoke to this eloquently.
But, Tracy Jopek is an Obama supporter, and as was originally said she doesn’t want to “sabotage his campaign” by complaining.
There’s almost a second story under the surface:
She said she was “satisfied” with his handling of it during the debate, but a number of places rewrote and propagated this as “ecstatic” in quotes. There was no such quote, and it is contrary to the tone she has in the quoted phrases. (See previous entries under the “Bracelet” tag.)
So — which Obama supporter in the media decided that “satisfied” wasn’t good enough, and decided to play up the headline?
Of interest, many of the headlines that were posted with “ecstatic” (and they showed up on Google News this way) were subsequently changed to “satisfied”. In other words, they know they’re being watched.
Also, the first AP report was relatively mild — and it confirmed my original assertions that she DID ask him to stop using the bracelet. It gave other information that was somewhat damaging to Barack Obama, while trying to be complementary. The very first sentence confirmed my point:
After Tracy Jopek gave Sen. Barack Obama a bracelet in honor of her son who was killed in Iraq, she asked Obama not to mention the bracelet on the campaign trail.
This was at 7:37 Eastern time.
But about 90 minutes later, the story reappears, re-written; much of the “damage” is removed and it comes out much more strongly in support of Obama. The tone of the second article is very different from the first in terms of the quotes from Tracy Jopek.
Did the Obama campaign complain to Associated Press?
Tracy Jopek is not the villain here; I think she is honestly doing what she thinks is best, and the original quotes from her certainly portray a thoughtful and fair-minded person.
I cannot ask her to call the Associated Press on the apparent stunt, here, as this would indeed hurt her candidate. But the AP is once again, from the evidence I see, harming journalism in favor of advocacy.
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[...] 2: The “after-the-fact cleanup operation” came in, but it changes nothing — “She DID ask him not to wear it.” The fact that she appreciated Obama’s [...]
Obama was asked six months ago not to wear the bracelet…
AP: “…she e-mailed the Obama campaign through its Web site asking that he not mention it during debates or speeches…”
…The bracelet with Ryan Jopek’s name that Obama had to consult during the debate was not intended …
Once the toothpaste is out of the tube, it can’t be put back in. For an Obama supporter, the mother of this man is impressive in the way she’s maintaining her dignity and not taking this down a partisan road.
I don’t see this story catching fire. I also don’t think this is the worst example of Obama’s character. The right thing to do, on many levels, was to never have mentioned the bracelet. But all the other lies that didn’t see the light of day… anything more on this would be just milking it.
Nonetheless, that was some great blogging Level_head.